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Free Advice Friday - Traveling with your Significant Other
Having a significant other, or spouse and living at home can be a challenge in itself, but that doesn’t even begin to compare to traveling with someone. For those that have not done long-term travel, it may seem like an extended vacation, but it’s not. It’s a new lifestyle, that still requires some planning, effort and patience. Articles often tout the many benefits of traveling solo, and there is good reason to do so. You can go where you want, when you want, how you want. Basically, the same benefits of being single. However, you can’t easily share those experiences. Photos can’t even begin to capture what we see with the naked eye, the goosebumps felt on our arms or the sound of wind or animals surrounding us. I always think of the movie “Into the Wild” when I imagine traveling alone. Everyone has their own preferences, but I confidently know, mine is to travel with Aracely.
1. Don’t Test a Relationship On the Road
This is not the place to test your compatibility. Be confident of your relationship, before planning your long-term travels with them.2. Discuss Travel Preferences
If one of you enjoys traveling in local buses and broken down roads in order to have a local experience, make sure the other does too. Are you an adventurer seeking high peak climbs or would you prefer to relax on a beach. Can you tolerate a communal dorm room, or you do prefer your privacy? Are you willing to experiment with food? This is probably one of the most important topics to spend time discussing. You may not have the same desires, but you have to come to a compromise before departing from home.3. Budget & Spending Behaviors
Agree on what you each intend to spend and stick to it! Even in your stable lives in suburbia, one of the top reasons for divorce is financial disagreements. Understand how your desire to see certain places or do specific activities will impact your budget. I like to spend money on beer, Aracely would rather enjoy a nice meal, but we both are okay with it.4. Inviting Friends & Family
Often when traveling long-term a friend offers to join you, or maybe even a Mother-in-Law! Expect to receive a few self-invites and know whether or not you have agreed to have company. Granted, a Mother-in-Law may not have been discussed. When traveling with friends or family the travel decisions, sleeping arrangements and transportation arrangements all become more difficult.5. Dedicated Together Time
Your probably wondering, “Don’t we have together time all the time?” My answer is, “Not the kind of together time I am referring to.” Much of our time is spent planning, eating, traveling and unfortunately waking up early. I know, I didn’t think I would have to wake up early either, but most buses and adventure activities start early in the morning. As travel bloggers and on-line consultants, whenever we get free time, we do work. In order to stay lovers and not just travel buddies, dedicate some personal time with each other, just as you might do at home.You will be together constantly with your significant other while traveling, but not the kind of together that brought you together.
The H-Bomb and Dating
I remember a girl I was dating right after I graduated from college. She was a girl who was a singer in a country band and she was a hottie. She was also a wild one in bed. Man she did some crazy stuff!
We weren't too serious. We both were in it for fun, partying and sex. I don't think either one of us wanted to settle down so it was nice to find someone who was on the same page as I was.
One night she said that there was something I should know, and my heart dropped because I figured she was going to drop the H-Bomb (H Bomb: When someone you are sleeping with tells you they have the herpes.) on me. I felt my heart sink and a knot in my stomach. I braced myself and told her to tell me what was on her mind. What I heard next was a mixed bag of feelings. Elations followed by concern. She just thought I should know that not too long ago she was addicted to pain pills and she thought she was an alcoholic. My first thought was "Thank God! I am disease free!". My next thought was "That's it? Isn't that what singers are supposed to do? Drugs and alcohol. No biggie."
I asked her if there was anything I could do to help. She said "No, it is ok." Then we had sex. We messed around for about 3 more months. I never saw her pop any pills, but I saw her drink a ton. Honestly, it didn't bother me. I drank too and her drinking and pill-popping never was a problem, at least not when she was around me. We parted our separate ways when her band went to Nashville to try and make it big. They never did and I never saw her again.
He Doesn't Pull Out
A reader sent me this. The story is that his buddy lives with his girlfriend. She got pregnant so his friend's sister made this for them. It was their Christmas Gift. Pretty Clever! 
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